You Might Be an INTJ Female If…

This post: clues about the INTJ female personality.

I am an INTJ female.

According to the Meyer’s and Brigg’s Foundation, the INTJ personality type is

  • vision-oriented
  • conceptual
  • logical
  • critical
  • determined
  • independent

And, I would add- highly perfectionistic and introverted.

INTJs are sometimes nicknamed “the Mastermind” or “the Architect.”

A few famous INTJs who have made their marks on history and in modern times include:

  • Sir Isaac Newton and Stephen Hawking (scientists)
  • Lewis Carol and Jane Austen (writers)
  • Hilary Clinton and Al Gore (politicians)
  • Ulysses S. Grant and Dwight Eisenhower (U.S. presidents and military commanders)

Well-known, albeit fictitious, INTJ types in novels include:

  • Mr. Darcy (Pride and Prejudice)
  • Professor Moriarty (Sherlock Holmes)
  • Galdolf (Lord of the Rings)
  • Jean Valjean (Les Miserables)

INTJS are sometimes heroes.

Frequently villains.

Rarely females.

{INTJs} Have original minds and great drive for implementing their ideas and achieving their goals. Quickly see patterns in external events and develop long-range explanatory perspectives. When committed, organize a job and carry it through. Skeptical and independent, have high standards of competence and performance – for themselves and others.”

The Meyer’s & Briggs Foundation

Nearly a decade ago, I discovered that I’m an INTJ personality type.

At the time, I had no idea what this string of letters represented; but it didn’t take long for me to feel like someone had finally explained why I process life the way I do.

And why I often have often felt like a square peg in a round hole; especially within the evangelical church world.

[INTJs] make up just two percent of the population, and women with this personality type are especially rare, forming only 0.8%.”

16 Personalities.com

Suddenly, a lot of things made sense.

To date, I’ve only ever personally met two other INTJs- both males.

I’ve yet to meet another INTJ woman- although I hear from a lot of them, thanks to this post.

The dynamic of life as an INTJ Christian woman is a topic worthy of an entire book, not just a single blog post.

For today, I’m writing a single post, in hopes of doing what INTJs tend to do best:

Inspire others to become self-aware, pursue personal growth, and reach toward God-given excellence.

These reasons are the essence of why I blog: living well, and inspiring others to do the same, is truly my passion.

Do you know your type?

If you’re not familiar with the Meyer’s & Brigg’s personality profiles, this website- 16 Personalities– is very informational and has a free personality test. (

There’s also a $49 test at the Meyer’s & Brigg’s site, if you prefer a more official test.)

For now, I’ve written something fun and, I hope, insightful: “you know you’re an INTJ female if…”

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I think a lot of this will resound with all introverted personalities; but to the INTJ female, the majority of these quirks and traits will likely feel very normal.

You Might Be An INTJ Female If…

1. You’ve always been a bit of an “old soul” in a modern world.

2. Self-awareness has been a part of your psyche, even during childhood.

3. You might have been the teacher’s pet (if you liked the teacher).

4. As a teenager, you seemed overly serious and mature for your age.

5. Rules aren’t a problem for you, unless you happen to not agree with said rules; then you simply negate them in your mind.

6. You’re definitely a Highly Sensitive Person.

7. You’re likely a type 1 or type 5 on the Enneagram.

8. You’ve rarely experienced “peer pressure” (because you don’t care what other people are doing or what they think).

9. If you had a choice, you’d NEVER talk on the phone.

10. Things that come easily to other women (like socializing, empathizing, or anything heart-or-right-brain-centered) feels awkward and difficult for you.

11. You often feel like you’re not cut out to be a wife and mother.

12. You don’t really “fit” any stereotype for Christian women.

13. The voice mail on your phone encourages people to hang up and send a text, rather than leave a message (because you won’t listen or call back anyway).

14. You’ve been accused of loving books more than people.

15. You feel physically drained, almost to the point of being ill, after too many consecutive days of having to “extrovert.”

16. Needy or clingy people alarm you.

17. Living like a hermit, at least every once-in-a-while, sounds like paradise.

18. The dictionary, encyclopedia and thesaurus fascinate you.

19. You don’t own a Kindle but it takes an entire room in your house to hold all your books.

20. People who always complain about their problems, instead of trying to fix them, puzzle you.

21. You often understand others but rarely feel understood.

22. It’s challenging for you to work with people who lack vision.

23. You never, ever let yourself feel like a victim.

24. Adults who insist on “not adulting” bewilder you.

25. People have often called you “old-fashioned.”

26. You will never understand why most women talk about their problems, but don’t want solutions to the problems.

27. You’d rather die than give up your autonomy.

28. Empathy isn’t one of your gifts.

29. You find typos and mistakes EVERYWHERE.

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30. Emotional drama either shuts you down or makes you want to run.

31. Looking smart is extremely important to you.

32. Solitude literally feels like a friend.

33. You think and ponder a lot more than you actually ever say out loud.

34. It takes a long time for you to trust people and make genuine friendships.

35. You’ve sometimes been called “cold” emotionally.

36. In truth, you’re guarded and reserved with your emotions- not uncaring.

37. Most times, you prefer history over modern trends or ideas.

38. Ideas and facts thrill you to the bone but chit chat bores you.

39. You can get lost in books… and the book store.

40. You’d rather look sophisticated or respectable than socially attractive.

41. There is a solution to every problem, in your mind anyway.

42. Personal space is a big deal to you- yours, and others’.

43. Intelligence is attractive to you.

44. Seeking the greater good is more important to you than catering to the whims of individuals.

45. Over-thinking is your vice.

46. You thrive in an orderly environment.

47. Monotony is difficult for you.

48. Values and principles are intrinsic to your code of living.

49. You have a rich, inner life and prefer your own thoughts and ideas over most people’s company.

50. Ultimately, you trust your “gut” and intuition more than popular opinion.

A few resources I think INTJ female personalities will especially enjoy:

Connecting, the INTJ Way

The fact you’re still reading tells me that you’re either super curious about this INTJ thing, or you’re most definitely and INTJ female.

Either way, let’s connect the old-fashioned introvert way.. which, of course, is NOT over a cup of coffee or by phone.

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27 thoughts on “You Might Be an INTJ Female If…”

  1. INTJ female here — living in the big city. A Christian. I think most Christian women are pathetic. (is that terrible?) But to be honest many traditional Christians who are female are taught to be dumb, uneducated, and fawn over every dude who comes along. That is not me. To me if someone wanted me to “submit” to them (whatever that means) I’d just tell them to probably take a hike (being honest). I also don’t like children whatsoever. Parents who don’t parent annoy me, as do people cranking out multiple babies when the husbands act irresponsibly. Most guys don’t approach me (could be because I’m educated and most of them are NOT– so being female with 2 bachelor degrees and one masters + one in process probably is intimidating). Although the reality is I’d be fine with someone who just reads a lot and isn’t well, “oppressive” or thinks I’m just a baby producer. This is an area in Christian culture that really bothers me to be honest. If I was a parent I’d be prob the type that would tell the kid the consequences of their actions (always backed up with consequences) and it would be up to them to get out of their own problems (at least after 18). I think i’d be fine as a “wife” though I’m not one at the moment. I think its more about being someone’s partner than slave… so it would depend on the person. I do own a kindle… for books I dont want hard copies of- but anything important, like Lord of the Rings, has to be the best copy with the best drawings.

    Anyways. I also hate stereotypical female things. Dresses… NO- impractical. Nylon– impractical. Pop music is trash. I hate rap. Anything that makes women seem like objects or ovens to bake children in.

    I don’t think people can change, this is what i see women trying to do to men all the time. Don’t bother dating a loser honey… DONT DO IT!

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  2. I normally do not comment, but I just came across your blog and I have to say it is nice to see there are other Christian INTJ women in the world. I have spent the better part of my life trying to figure out how to be a Christian INTJ women, wife and mother. Not only do I not fit into the “Christian submissive feeling type” mold…but I am married to an ISFP!! Additionally, we spent 10 years in full time ministry with 4 kids under the age of 5 and it was the hardest years of my life… emotionally, mentally and spiritually. I will just say that I spent a LOT of time trying to fit in, down play my INTJ traits and beating myself up in an effort to “support and encourage” my husband in ministry and into being the leader in our home. After years of frustration, I finally realized/learned he was an ISFP and “leader” wasn’t a word in his personality vocabulary. Needless to say we have had our issues over the years, given what some would call “role reversal” personalities, but we both have learned a lot and I have come to appreciate and love my husband for who he is but I think we still struggle with how to adhere to the typical Christian marriage given our personalities. I find it very interesting, and encouraging, that you are a pastor’s wife, as I know first hand that it adds another layer onto being an INTJ women. I look forward to reading more of your blog.

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    • Tammy, I relate to SO much of what you shared! (Thanks so much for taking the time to comment, by the way). My husband is either an ISFP or an ISFJ (I’m not completely sure which, since he can be both “P” and “J” at times). Over the years, I’ve grown to despise stereotypes- particularly those that are widely tauted in the church world. God created us all so uniquely and apparently there isn’t ONE “right” way to function as wives/women and husbands/men. My husband is a servant-leader and, as such, he excells as a pastor, dad + husband in ways that a type A man certainly never would. I am a visionary and type A female… I bring structure, big-picture ideas, and problem-solving ideas to our marriage, home life, and ministry in ways that the more laid back, “passive” type women never could.

      The secret to living well is to know who you were created to be and live into your unique strengths. There is much grace for all of us, thank God!

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  3. 51. If you read Galdolf (Lord of the Rings) and immediately correct to GANDALF.

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  4. Greetings from another INTJ woman! Just recently I discovered personality types and found a name for what I am as people often call me antisocial, misanthropist, cold, snob, and many other beautiful names! INTJ is such a better word! I am a Christian too, but in my own unconventional way as I question many of the church traditions and practices. Maybe that’s part of my personality too… I like to interact with people I respect and relate to and engage in activities that worth my time. Small minds, small talk and silly events, traditions, norms etc bore me and anger me sometimes. I am not a snob, I am not judgemental, I just focus on the essence of things and what makes me happy, life is too small to waste our time and energy on what we don’t love! Now that I became 30 years old however, I try to take care of myself and be as stylish as I can, and embrace my femininity. It isn’t easy, I won’t lie, but in the end I hope it will give me some confidence which will help me to achieve my other goals too. I’m going to keep up with your blog and maybe meet some lovely INTJ ladies here too! Warmest, a medicine student from Greece!

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  5. This piece was highly relatable, thanks for the read! Ever since I learned I was an INTJ I’ve delighted in hearing from other INTJs about their experiences. And until reading the comments on this blog post, I never realized there were so many of us Female Christian INTJs. What a refreshing discovery!

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  6. Hi, I’m also an INTJ Christian (and missionary),and over the last 30 plus years have done lots of these personality tests, finding that I always test the same. Although being a diehard skeptic, and MBTI having been debunked of late, prefer to go by the big 5 or one of the more reliable personality tests around. That said, yes, to all of these points. I’m 66 and sadly, it took me a very long time to stop pretending to be ‘normal’ ! Don’t waste your life not being who God made you! I often tell my students “God don’t make junk!” That from a writing and grammar teacher! Sheesh!

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  7. I am an INTJ female, and everything you say about us is my life. Thank you for understanding.

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  8. Just finished reading this and I will be re reading it. I’m also an INTJ Christian woman, wife and mother of one. I have never come across another INTJ Christian woman and I’m pretty excited 🙂 I always feel like I’m not able to keep up with the other women and their touchy feely emotional personalities. And I think I usually say the wrong things when I’m expected to be something I am not. However – I’m always working on putting on the new personality that the Bible encourages. I sincerely desire to be my best and persevere. So I will happily settle in now and read through your blog and suggestions.

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    • Vanessa, I’m so happy to connect with you via the blog! I love what you referenced about putting on Biblical traits, or “personality.” All believers are called to be like Christ, our natural dispositions aside. Great perspective.

      Thanks for reading here, I hope you’ll stick around!

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  9. I have been involved in ministry one way or the other for 12 years. I have not only not felt welcome but I truly wasn’t wanted in many women’s groups. Still today I can’t be used inside the four walls of the church. I thought I was broken. Thankfully God reminds me daily who I am to Him. Every single person in my family is loved and accepted (except me) in the church world. I’m a mom of 7 but I also have a business and I’m doing my best but it hasn’t been good enough for certain people for a long time. I want to do better but I’m not a feeler and I have no idea how to get on that feeler level. I’m consistently left out, isolated, and flat out gossiped about in certain church circles. I’ve been praying for years for God to bring me life long Jesus following girl friends. I’m finally getting settled with some but I do love my INTJ groups. To finally realize I wasn’t damaged was a huge deal for me. I had a close pastor friend that kept saying I must be an enneagram 8 even though I consistently tested as a 1 and 5. When I finally took the paid test I was hands down a one. Most of my best girlfriends are 9 and 2. They really love me for me and know my heart is pure. I’m married to an ENFP and I don’t know any other INTJ Christian women. It’s tough I’m not gonna lie. If I have one more person call me a know it all I’m going to stay under my favorite rock forever. Because let’s face it- we know a lot. I’ll read any dang book on the planet. I love to read. After years of struggling I just stopped serving and I stopped pouring in to relationships that didn’t reciprocate on at least some level. Thankfully I know my worth and I have tons of fortitude or I might have quit Jesus. I’ve finally arrived at the truth that I’m perfectly made in His image very different than the rest of the girls. Loved finding you.

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  10. Only recently discovered MBTI types, done multiple tests and I am indeed an INTJ female (54 years) and so is my daughter. Finally have I found something to relate to. It helps immensely to finally understand that there is nothing actually wrong with me – I’m just different from basically everyone else around me. The fact that none of them understands me and probably never will is something I’m just gonna have to live with, I guess. After all, most people are pretty dumb…:)

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  11. Thank you for this! I am a Christian INTJ and felt immensely pressured to go to a Christian college from my parents. I was miserable and incredibly lonely. I got along with my professors really well, but did not fit in with the girls more obsessed with their Bible for Instagram posts.

    I graduated early and finally found amazing friends who help me grow and challenge me, but I don’t have any Christian (church-going) friends my age. I also have dated but can’t imagine finding a guy my age who is a Christian, intelligent, kind, and a strong leader without being a jerk/narcisstic. I love other INTJs and have met a handful of female INTJs, but most are atheists or agonstic, so it’s refreshing to see some Christian INTJs!

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    • Hi Samantha! It’s a bit of a lonely world for the Christian INTJ female, isn’t it? Keep your standards high and don’t settle for a man who isn’t your match, spiritually and morally.

      Have you heard of Suzanne Venker? (You can check her out online: https://www.suzannevenker.com.) I’m not sure if she’s an INTJ or not, but I connect with what she writes in a way that I don’t with most writers. I especially like her book, The Alpha Female.

      Also, there’s a FB group for Christian INTJs: https://www.facebook.com/groups/852900798143057. I’m in a few INTJ groups and like this one best.

      One last thing: I personally believe that the world desperately needs the intellect and vision of a Christian INTJ. Don’t hide your light because it’s rare; you stand out because you were created to do that. I’m cheering you on!

      Thanks so much for reading and commenting here.

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    • I’m so glad you discovered this post and found it interesting! Thanks so much for reading and commenting, David.

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  12. My lifecoach since four weeks gave me this test and it turned our that im a INTJ-T and suddenly my lwhole ife make sence.

    It is thrilling but some I also feel sad. I have spent so many years, jobs and relationships telling myself that there must be something fundamentally wrong with me becuase I cannot make it work. Specially the relationship part breaks my heart because I have turned myself inside out trying to please my boyfriend. After five yeard (I moved to his country, learned the language, got a job etc) we broke up two months ago. I feel so free but somehow so lost. Of course, a relationship do not break just bekause of personality type, but now a lot of our problems comes into another light.

    But hopefully I will be able to create my life in a different way from now on. At least I hope so.

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    • I am feeling your pain, my friend. I’m so glad you were able to discover your personality; yes, it makes SO many things make sense.

      Relationships are a challenge for the INTJ, especially for us females. I get it.

      There is always freedom in authenticity, so stay true to your unique self. The right people will love the real you, not the “you” you try to recreate to fit expectations. My prayers are with you as you move forward.

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  13. Very interesting. It’s not me but I do know a lady that has talked about the fact that she is an Intj. I remember her talking about the rarity in being a female Intj. I need to have my sister look at this because she fits a lot of these qualities listed above.

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    • April, thanks so much for reading and commenting here. Your sister just might be an INTJ! Please feel free to share the post with her. Xoxo

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  14. I’m an ISTJ, so very close to you, Kristy. But based on your list, I can see where I might differ from you too. Thanks for sharing. Personality test always intrigue me! I’ll be pinning!

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    • Beth, thank you for reading, commenting, and pinning! xoxo My 16-year old daughter tests on the Meyers-Briggs as an ISTJ… yes, very, very close! I’m quite fascinated by these personality profiles and types. The Enneagram is another one that captures my analyzing wheels!

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  15. I love this! Depending on which test I take, I either get INFJ or INTJ on the Meyer’s Briggs test, both resonate with me, so I’m not completely sure which one I am. I have one other female friend who identifies as an INTJ, so it’s comforting to know that we are not alone!

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    • Sometimes it’s hard to really NAIL your type! So fun to connect with you and, yes, realize that an INTJ sisterhood does indeed exist! 😉 Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment here, Sarah.

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