Welcome to week seven of our winter-long Healthy, Beautiful You series here at the blog!
Over the past few weeks, we’ve been exploring physical, emotional, and spiritual self-care for Christian women.
(You can check out our past posts in this series right here.)
Today, I want to give you a peek at a recent weekend getaway my husband and I enjoyed, and share a few reasons why I believe you should make time for a getaway too!
Ever felt like you are burning the candle at both ends?
Actually, I feel like that a lot.
As a homeschool mom of five and a busy pastor’s wife, I very often feel like there’s simply not enough time nor energy to meet all the demands most days throw at me.
Yes, I try to rise to the challenges of life.
But sometimes, I just need to fill back up so I can keep on giving.
That’s really why I’ve been writing about self-care here at the blog lately.
I had no idea how much I was going to need this series.
I hope it’s been encouraging to you too.
If you’re feeling a bit depleted as a wife, mom, ministry leader, working woman or whatever other role you are living right now, I hope this post inspires you to hit “pause” sometime soon.
Here are two reasons why I feel like a weekend getaway might be something you need to consider planning for yourself– or if you’re a wife, for you and your husband.
If you can’t get away for an entire weekend, consider taking a day off or even pressing pause for an entire evening.
The length of time away really isn’t as important as the fact that you’re choosing to be intentional about resting and recharging.
(Keep reading, and I’ll share some practical ideas for making a “getaway” feasible, even in the midst of a demanding life.)
Here are two reasons I think planning a “get away” is a really important part of self-care:
Reason #1: You can’t keep giving unless you stay full.
I already said this, but it’s worth repeating.
As women, we are life-giving nurturers.
By our very natures, we give to others: in ministry, at work, at home and in virtually every relationship.
That’s not a bad thing! God wired us this way.
But it’s ridiculous to think that we can just keep giving and giving and giving without ever taking time to fill back up.
One of the main reasons Jeremy and I set aside a weekend getaway every January is so that we can simply rest.
For a few wonderful days, there are no demands on our time, focus, or energy.
It’s a time to recharge, and fill our souls back up with all the good things we need to keep giving.
Reason #2: You can’t live intentionally unless you have a clear purpose and direction.
Another purpose of our weekend getaways is to intentionally plan and sharpen our focus as spouses, parents, and ministry leaders.
Without this time to reflect, talk, brainstorm and plan together, it would be really hard for us to stay on track.
Our annual weekend getaway certainly isn’t the only time we plan, but it is a time we intentionally set aside every year to refocus.
When is the last time you really took time to get intentional about your life?
Do you have clearly thought-out goals for this year?
What is the purpose driving you to excel in this season of life?
Or we can get so busy being busy that we don’t even realize that we’re not really living productively.
Setting aside a weekend to refocus and prioritize helps create margin and set needful boundaries in your life.
Maybe this all sounds great, but you’re sitting there thinking there’s no way I can actually getaway for an entire weekend- or even a day!
Let me share with you a few of our obstacles, and how we overcome them in order to make a weekend getaway happen:
Obstacle #1: There’s No Extra Time.
This is probably the biggest challenge for Jeremy and me.
In our current season of life, we are literally swamped with responsibilities that eat up our time- seven days a week.
When I say that we take time to get away, I mean that we literally TAKE TIME.
We don’t “have” time.
Every year, we block off a weekend for our annual getaway, and we plan everything else around that.
Honestly, it’s never convenient for us to getaway for a few days.
If we waited for a white space on the calendar to happen, we’d never do it.
We plan for it to happen.
This year, we missed an event that we would have otherwise attended, but it happened to land on the same weekend as our planned getaway.
We chose the getaway over the other event because we saw it as an investment in our marriage, our family, and our ministry.
Aside from that, we knew that we both just needed the down time.
Obstacle #2: There’s No Extra Money.
This is another dynamic that we simply plan for.
We plan to afford to take a break.
If finances are an obstacle for you getting away for a weekend- either by yourself or with your spouse- trust me when I say that I’ve been there.
The good news: a getaway doesn’t have to be expensive.
Here are a few tips to help make a weekend getaway super afforadable:
- Plan to getaway during an off-season, when hotel and B&B rates are lower.
- Use websites like PriceLine and Air B&B to find the most competitive rates.
- Consider staying somewhere within driving distance, so you don’t have to incur the cost of a flight or extra fuel.
- If you have restaurant gifts cards from birthdays or Christmas, use those!
- Plan enough in advance that you can save up for several months.
- Ask around to see if close friends or family have a timeshare condo you can use.
- If you’re single, ask a close friend, your sister, etc, to share the getaway with you so you can split the costs.
Even during our most financially lean times, Jeremy and I have found ways to slip away for a night or two.
If it’s important enough to you, you can find a way!
Obstacle #3: There’s No Support System.
Here’s another big obstacle you might be facing if you’re a parent:
Who’s going to watch your kids so you can enjoy this magical getaway for a weekend?
Again, this is another challenge I fully understand.
And, once again, I believe that it’s possible to work around this challenge if planning a getaway is important enough to you.
Jeremy and I have five young kids and none of our family lives locally, so finding a babysitter for an overnight getaway isn’t easy.
Thankfully, we have a dear family friend, and I have a sweet mother-in-law who both live within driving distance.
When we need an overnight babysitter, we plan around these ladies’ work schedules.
Sometimes, things don’t always work out when we want them to.
But a little planning ahead, creativity, and flexibility go a long way in making our weekend getaways a reality every year.
What about you?
When is the last time you hit “pause” long enough to rest, prioritize, and fill yourself back up with all the good things you have to keep on giving?
—–> If you’re single, why not plan a getaway with a girl friend soon?
—–> If you’re married, ask your husband if a weekend or overnight mini vaca is a possibility.
If he says no, don’t be discouraged!
—–> Give yourself permission to take a mini break at home.
(We’ll talk about a few ways every woman can do to help herself recharge next week… so stay tuned!)
Whatever your current season of life–
and whatever your personal obstacles–
give yourself permission to live and rest with intention.
You are worth it!
Here’s to living and loving well-