How should a pastor’s wife dress?
The short answer: she should be beautiful and modest.
In our previous post, we made the case for Biblical modesty and addressed the fact that God’s Word does not tell us specifically how a pastor’s wife (or anyone) should dress.
Today, I want to share with you my favorite ideas and tips for dressing with style and beauty.
I’ve been a pastor’s wife since I was twenty-three years old; my personal approach to style is dressing to compliment your personality, body shape, and complexion.
Christian women should be the most gracious, confident, and beautiful women ever. Pastor’s wives, we get to lead the way.
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Modesty and beauty are not enemies.
To the contrary, they can and should co-exist within the lives of all Christian women.
Our culture tells us that modesty is doomed to be frumpy, but the culture is wrong.
God is the author of every good and perfect gift, and that includes the gifts of beauty within nature, the universe, the animal kingdom and especially the human race (we were made in His image, don’t forget!).
Beauty is not something you have to put on, ladies.
You ARE beautiful.
God made you that way, and it was His idea that you shine in this world for His glory and to build His kingdom.
Learning how to work with your God-given physical qualities, and complement your natural loveliness, is an art every woman and girl should develop.
That’s what today’s post is all about!
By way of disclaimer: I’ll be the first to say that I am no fashion diva.
But I highly value modesty and femininity.
And, yes- I do love fashion!
What I want to share with you are practical ideas for making the most of your natural beauty… and to remind you that God made you truly beautiful.
Just as you are.
Being a good steward of your body will only enhance the God-given loveliness that is already YOU.
To the pastor’s wives reading this today, remember that you set the pace for the women in your church.
Show them what gracious, confident, and beautiful womanhood looks like!
How Should a Pastor’s Wife (and every beautiful, Christian woman) Dress?
#1 Dress according to your personality.
Do you like bold colors and loud prints? Wear them!
Do you feel dainty in pastels, lace, and floral prints? Wear them!
Do you prefer boots over pumps or heels over flats? Wear them!
Trying to fit into someone else’s mold is worse than squeezing into a dress that’s two sizes two small.
It just won’t fit and you’ll feel awkward at best.
And, I will add, don’t compare yourself.
That is a game where everyone loses.
A woman with simple tastes shouldn’t feel threatened by her accessorizing friend or sister… both are a beautiful and unique expression of God’s creative design.
Embrace your unique personality and wear it with grace and confidence.
#2 Dress according to your body shape.
This is another area where we have to be careful not to compare ourselves, ladies.
An outfit may look amazing on your friend, and crazy (or downright awful) on you!
That’s perfectly okay.
Chances are you simply have different body shapes.
Refuse to be jealous of someone else.
Learn about YOU, then dress accordingly.
Depending on which resource you’re reading, there are anywhere from eight to twelve basic body shapes.
Personally, I enjoy Trinny and Susanna’s take on body shapes, and here are the twelve they talk about:
- Hour Glass (generous thighs, short waist, full bust…)
- Cornet (broader shoulders, smaller bust, slim hips…)
- Bell (smaller shoulders and bust, shapely hips…)
- Pear (smaller bust, flat tummy, heavier legs…)
- Brick (flat bottom, broad shoulders, athletic build)
- Apple (rounded shoulders, tendency for fullness in the tummy area…)
- Cello (fuller hips and tummy, curvey…)
- Vase (larger bust, smaller waist, a bit of a tummy…)
- Skittle (smaller up top, tendency to carry weight in legs…)
- Goblet (top heavy, smaller in hips and legs…)
- Lollipop (fuller bust, narrow shoulders and hips…)
- Column (athletic build, lean and angular…)
Trinny and Susanna share a lot on their blog, and have even written a book, to help women determine their body shape and learn how to wear styles that accentuate strong points and minimize weaker points (and we all have both!).
The language on this site can be a bit crass at times (in my humble opinion), but if you can overlook that these gals have a lot of great tips to offer.
Keep in mind that one body shape isn’t better than any of the others.
The point is to recognize where you “fit” so you can dress your best!
#3 Dress to accentuate your natural complexion.
I think it’s a bit sad that so many women feel like they have to tan, dye, and otherwise change their God-given coloring in order to be beautiful.
Why must we all be blond?
Don’t lose sight of the fact that God created you with a natural coloring and complexion.
It is you, and it is beautiful.
Enhance it by the way you wear your hair, make up and clothing!
Color Me Beautiful is a great site for helping you identify your natural complexion, and how to enhance it with colors that look great on you.
There are four “seasons” of natural coloring:
- spring (your coloration is bright and sunny)
- summer (your complexion is delicate and complimented by pastels)
- autumn (your natural coloring is fiery, earthy, and golden)
- winter (your coloring is rich, intense, and crisp)
You can take a quick quiz to see what “season” you are right here.
I’m a “cool” winter, by the way (I have light skin, blue eyes, and dark brown hair).
My sister, Julie, is a “warm” winter (she has dark brown eyes, very dark brown hair, and a bronze complexion).
Knowing what colors look best with our complexion helps us be savvy wardrobe shoppers!
Wrapping it All Up
You are beautiful.
Womanhood is a gift, and as minister’s wives we have the amazing calling of living that out before the women and girls God has put into our lives.
Embrace your calling, become a woman of eternal vision, and live every day with intention and confidence!
This post features beautiful clothing from some of my favorite online sites for modest clothes.
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Here’s to living well-
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