Maybe I dreamt of him.
I’m not sure. I just remember that I awoke this morning with thoughts and words and feelings that kind of overwhelmed me for a moment.
As my eyes popped open and I caught a glimpse of the fresh, morning light streaming in through our bedroom window, my heart sang.
He is amazing.
He really is.
Of course I thought so fifteen years ago when I first laid eyes on him as a teenage girl.
I was a hopeful nineteen, and he was a twenty-something senior at Bible college. He wore a suit, drove a new car, worked two jobs, and pastored a little community church on Sundays.
He was one of the “bachelors” none of the girls at college had been able to catch… yet. 🙂
He was amazing.
Of course I thought so nearly thirteen years ago on the day I became his wife.
I was a confident twenty-one-year old bride who didn’t know what I didn’t know about life. He still wore a suit, had a bachelor’s degree, big dreams of becoming a full-time pastor, and now a ring on his finger and a wife on his hands.
He whisked me away in a limo for a week-long honeymoon at a bed-and-breakfast in the mountains.
Yeah, he was amazing.
We had babies. Changed jobs. And churches. And homes.
Our differences popped up. And up. And up.
Life got busy, he got quiet, I got depressed.
What happened to amazing?
We learned to let go. Forgive. Forget.
And most importantly, to remember…
That amazing has very little to do with circumstances,
and everything to do with perspective.
This beautiful clock is an early Valentine’s Day/anniversary gift from Personal Creations!
This morning, I remembered
all we have become…
and all we have overcome.
I remembered the strength of character is takes for a man to say “no” to himself and “yes” to God.
I remembered the commitment of a man who chooses to love his sometimes unlovely wife… as Christ loves His bride.
I remembered the gentleness required of a man to take a little boy fishing or tuck a fussy toddler into bed at the end of a stressful day.
I remembered the meekness called for from a man who faces a congregation, week in and week out, and has to be all things to all people.
I remembered the moral integrity it takes for a man to be faithful to his wife (through five pregnancies and years of exhausting parenthood). To keep his eyes and his hands and his heart pure before God.
I remembered what it calls out of a man to be a leader in a world that crucifies manhood and undermines morality.
I remembered the confidence of a man who stands for what he believes, despite the persuasion of the culture, his friends or family.
I remembered that a meek man, a devoted man, a man of integrity, is truly the hero in his own story.
I remembered…
Or maybe I realized more than ever before,
He is amazing!
“Why is the one you love
more special than others?
Why do you ask us
to tell him how you feel?”
” He is handsome and healthy,
the most outstanding
among ten thousand.
His head is purest gold;
his hair is wavy,
black as a raven.
His kisses are sweet.
I desire him so much!
He is my lover and friend.”
(taken from Song of Solomon chapter 5)
What’s so special about your man?
Tell me something that makes him amazing to you!
This is beautiful! Thank you for sharing, Kristy! Micah and I will be married for two years May 13th. It seems like we’ve been married for much longer than that (which is a wonderful thing!). After spending most of our dating and engaged relationship long distance, it was a huge adjustment to get used to being under the same roof for more than a few hours at a time 😉 However, your post has reminded me so much of all the wonderful Godly traits that he has and continues to grow into. As we prepare for seminary, I see how the Lord is growing him as a husband and future pastor. He is so selfless in his care for me and many times I take it for granted. He is amazing and am so thankful that the Lord brought us together.
There are many adjustments in marriage, and it requires much grace on a daily basis!
It’s very exciting to think of the plans God has for you and your husband in ministry! Thank you for sharing your thoughts here. 🙂
How I love this post Kristy!
I am also 21(now almost 24) when I married a 20 something man and I look forward to that day when we’ll also have 15, 30 , 60 years to look back to what we have become and to what we have overcome. We are just starting out parenthood with an almost 2 year old hyperactive(I really mean this) little man and it sure is exhausting.
I use to ask my man if he still loves me and he will say “sometimes not” with a laugh he is trying so hard to hide. Of course I know every time he is just joking but that leaves me realizing that more often than I care, I become unlovable towards him. But this is where and when I can say “He is amazing” because despite my immaturity etc etc. he is still there, an ear to listen a hand to hold, an arm to comfort and a heart to understand. He is just everything I need, all of him, his greatness and his flaws.
My man, like yours is also amazing!
Thank you 🙂
I so relate, Mitch! Yes, these men of ours are amazing.
Blessings on your journey in becoming and overcoming!
Thank you Kristy!
This is a great post to encourage marriages! It’s so easy to get caught up in the things our spouses do wrong and not focus on the good.
My husband and I celebrated ten years last summer and it was definitely a great feeling ! We had many times when we both wanted to give up. He went through a major depressions and I felt like a single mom of 3 even though he was physically there’s I eventually learned that I had to think about the good , pray for him and work on me.
We made it past that and are stronger than ever now.
I love that he is a big kid and loves playing with our children, I love that he has a job working with handicapped people and he is wonderfully patient with them, I love that he has a desire for God and to live out the things He asks of us. I love that he has such an eye for detail and is a bit of a perfectionist. I clean and do basics and every now and then he comes and does all the details lol
My husband is amazing
Thank you for sharing such a beautiful peek into your life, Jacquie. It’s amazing how the struggles can make us stronger. God is faithful!
As a friend who knows you in real life, I liked reading this, Jacquie!