Thanks for sticking with me (Monica) during our Joyful Homeschooling series here at the blog!
We’re going to wrap things up tomorrow with “3 Common Joy-Stealers for Homeschooling Moms.”
Today, let’s talk about a topic that can get a little taboo at times: Your husband’s involvement in homeschooling.
Now I realize that a lot of dads may not be involved at all (or maybe not much) with the actual ins-and-outs of their children’s home education, and I’m not trying to get anyone upset at her husband!
This post isn’t about what your husband should be doing to help out with homeschooling, but rather what YOU can do to engage his leadership and protection.
I’m talking about having your kids be accountable to a “principal.”
That’s right: Mr. Principal Dad.
Just as handing your problems over to God can be so freeing, being able to hand over certain problems to a “principal” can also be a load-lightening experience.
My kids are accountable to their dad for any behavioral situations or problems that might occur during our homeschool session. He is just one phone call away and can deal with problems when he arrives home.
Having a “principal” means that I can go on being joyful, knowing that I have a “higher power” who can both handle the situation and use wisdom in dealing with problems.
On a side note, this is not to say you are to refuse to handle any situation that arises or that you are to constantly bombard your husband with petty issues throughout the day.
We don’t want to strip his joy either!
I’m simply talking about a way to (1) honor your husband’s headship in the home, and (2) give you a break when it comes to child training issues.
What if my husband doesn’t want to be involved, or doesn’t know how?
That’s a great question, and I have a feeling a few moms might be asking that about now.
Here are a few suggestions to engage your husband as a homeschooling dad.
Please keep in mind that these are simply suggestions, okay?! Not guilt-trips for you or your hubby. 🙂
- Attend a homeschool conference or book fair together.
- Read a book about homeschooling together (Educating the WholeHearted Child, by Clay Clarkson, is Kristy’s personal favorite!).
- Ask your husband what his goals are for your kids, academically, spiritually, etc. How can you both help your children reach those goals?
- Ask him to list his top three or four priorities for you as a homeschooling mom. (This just might free you to focus on the things that really matter to him, and release you from unnecessary expectations.)
- Pray for God to give your husband wisdom as a father and leader of the home.
- Always seek to honor the decisions he makes regarding your family life.
- Surrender your expectations to God regarding what your husband “should” be doing as a dad and husband.
- Refuse to compare your family to other homeschooling families!
Do you have any helpful ideas to add to this list?
How would you encourage another homeschooling mom in this area?
Monica is passionate about honoring God, her husband, homeschooling, homemaking, homesteading, helping other women, & healthy living. She and her husband have six children, ages 12 years to 22 months, and live on a small farm in the good ole South. They enjoy singing together as a family and using their talents as a ministry. She and her husband enjoy teaching music lessons on the side. She can be found blogging (very sporadically) at www.simplefarmmama.wordpress.com.