Minister’s Wife Monday | The Right Words at Just the Right Time {the power of godly mentoring}

When is the last time you stopped and thought about how detail-oriented our Heavenly Father is, and how He places the right people in our lives at just the right time? 

Over the past few days, the Lord has so beautifully reminded me of the power of having godly mentors in my life…

The last two weeks have been a bit challenging for me as I’ve sought to find the equilibrium my body needs in order to work through current the demands of fatigue on my health.  

I’ve been thinking, praying, long and hard about my priorities and habits.

About my need for more rest, more of that “quiet” I chose to cultivate in my life this year (obviously I have plenty of room for improvement!).

The dimensions of ministry, motherhood and homeschooling usher in a much deeper level of “needs” and “demands” on my time, energy, and emotional focus.  How do I sort through it all?

How do I keep my personal life in line with God’s perfect timing and will?

How can I consistently be a faithful steward as a wife, mom, friend, pastor’s wife?

Where do hobbies and projects and finances fit into the picture with ministry, family and personal life?

And, the really big question, How do I keep from burning both ends of the candle… and ultimately burning out?

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A few days ago, I received a phone call from a dear friend.  It had been several months since we last talked, so there was some catching up to do!  As my friend (a woman whose children are now grown) shared with me, her voice grew reflective:

“You know, Kristy, I’ve accomplished some things that feel pretty important in my life, but do you know what I’m most proud of?  My children.  It’s impossible to invest ‘too much’ into their lives when they’re young.  I know it doesn’t seem like it now, but they will grow up and be gone someday.  If you invest in their lives now, the rewards will be so sweet. ” 

For this mama’s heart, a word fitly spoken! (Proverbs 25:11)

Yesterday at church, we enjoyed a service with a missionary couple I’ve known ever since I was a little girl.  In fact, this family came to the church my dad pastored when I was a kid, and their four children were quite small.  I’ve literally watched (from a distance) as this family has “grown up” and the parents are now ministering on the foreign field as empty nesters.

The missionary’s wife mentioned during the service how, when her children were all young and at home, she felt like the majority of her “ministry” was just being a mom!  Between homeschooling, giving hair cuts, making meals, and being the Jack-of-all-trades on the home front, she had very little time to do what most people consider “missionary work.”

After the service, I told the missionary’s wife, “That is me.  That’s where I’m at.  I’m a pastor’s wife, but most of what I do feels so ‘unspiritual’ because I’m so busy being a mommy.”

The Right Words at Just the Right Moment {the power of godly mentoring}

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My friend replied, “Everything else- the house, the ministries- will still be there when your kids grow up, but now is the time to invest in your children.  They will remember the time you spend with them, so spend it with them now.”

A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.”

Proverbs 25:11

My heart is so strengthened this morning as I sit and ponder the wisdom these wise, older women shared with me.

I’m tucking their words away in my heart, because I know they are in response to my heart’s cry for wisdom and guidance from the Lord.

How desperately we younger moms need godly, experienced women to speak words of truth and affirmation into our lives.  In a culture where most of the comments directed at younger women undermine the value of our roles as wives and mothers, these Biblically sound words can center and anchor us to Truth.

Yes, I already “know” these things.  I know them, and I believe them.  But to have an older woman, who’s lived through the season I’m navigating right now, come along beside me and cheer me on… well, there are no words to describe how valuable that is in my life!

No wonder God established the pattern of mentoring in Titus 2:

The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;

 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,

 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”

 Do you have voices of wisdom and experience to speak encouragement and truth into your life?

If not, begin to pray for God to send those influences into your life.  The Lord knows what you need and when you need it, so cry out to Him with a teachable, open heart.

Cultivating a heart posture of being teachable is vital, because more times than not these mentors come to us as a quiet voice, a gentle correction, or a friendship waiting to be drawn out by a hungry soul.  Be intentional but, above all, be teachable!

Do you look for opportunities to speak words of encouragement and truth into the lives of other women? 

Maybe you’re young like me, but you’re not too young to mentor or encourage someone else.  If you have daughters in your home, then they are your first ministry.  Speak life-giving words to them every day. 

Look around at the younger women in your life.  Do you have younger, unmarried friends?  Teenage girls in your church or circle of acquaintance?  Cultivate relationships with these younger women and seek to encourage them in their roles as women of God.  It’s not easy to face this culture as a single woman!

What about your peers?  Don’t allow insecurity or pettiness hinder you from encouraging the women who are in the same stage of life as you are.  

Be your Mom Friends’ biggest cheer leader.  Befriend your fellow mamas.  Send them encouraging texts and cards.  Give them grace, and give their children grace.

My heart is passionate about Biblical mentoring because I feel it has nearly become an extinct pattern in most Christian circles today.

Seek to find and be a mentor, my friend!

Mentoring does not have to be any more complicated than cultivating intentional, Biblical relationships with the women around you. 

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Please be in prayer for our Titus2 Ladies Retreat on September 12.  

My burden for the women in our church, and in the surrounding churches in our area, is to cultivate an atmosphere where the Titus 2 pattern can take root, flourish, and bear fruits of righteousness in the lives of many women and girls.

Thanks for your prayers, and for reading here at the blog.  You are a blessing to me!

Have a blessed Monday, sweet friends!


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3 thoughts on “The Right Words at Just the Right Time {the power of godly mentoring}

  1. Your post today was to me “a word fitly spoken”!
    I’m somewhat in the same stage as you describe yourself …homeschooling children , pastors wife, & I needed this truthful reminder! Thks for sharing your journey Kristy!

    Posted on August 31, 2015 at 12:34 pm
  2. This is so true, Kristy. I have yet to find a godly mentor woman who has been where I am with a large growing family, ministering husband, homeschooling, etc., but I really feel the need to find someone. Something for me to pray for, because I feel like it would be a tremendous blessing!

    Posted on August 31, 2015 at 8:27 am
    1. Yes, it would, Kristen. I’ll be praying about this with you! The Lord knows just what- and who- you need at this busy season of life.

      Love you, sweet friend!

      Posted on August 31, 2015 at 8:55 am