Throughout the weeks of February and March, I’m reposting some of the most helpful homeschooling articles from the archives here at the blog.
Nine years ago, God blessed my husband and I with our first-born child: a beautiful, black-haired, blue-eyed daughter.
While I had visions of pink fluff and sweetness, this girl was born telling the world how she felt and what we needed to do about it!
Come to think of it, she’s just like her mama… but that’s another story!
As she grew older, I decided very quickly that we had a problem. While her younger sister and brother were easy going and eager to please, this First Born of mine had a mind of her own that refused to bend.
While Little Sis loved to sit quietly and play dolls, my Wild Child lived up to all the stories I’d ever heard about rambunctious boys.
While Little Brother was eager to give and please, my willful First-Born was selfish and stubborn.
What was the matter with HER?
As our girl grew, I erroneously believed that all our issues in child training would be solved if I could somehow shape this girl into a passive child… someone akin to her easy-going siblings.
What I didn’t realize was that I had been given children with very different personalities; all equally valuable, but very, very different.
Unfortunately it took me several years to come to the proper conclusion:
I was the one who had a problem.
Being a Go To Gal myself (and that is another story), it took a few hard knocks for the Lord to penetrate my thick head with the truth:
I had been given an immeasurable gift with this precious girl, and I needed to learn to appreciate her.
I wish I could say that the Lord opened the heavens, gave me a vision, and I was instantaneously changed forever.
Unfortunately, I am a slow learner. It took several painful years of hard knocks, difficult homeschooling, and many, many desperate prayers before the Lord found me in a place where I would actually listen.
Tomorrow, I’ll share more of my story of raising, nurturing and loving an In-Charge daughter… and next week, we’ll look at homeschooling strong willed kids in general (I am blessed with more than one!).
For now, tell me: are you the mother of a “strong willed” daughter?
If so, what has been your perspective of your child’s personality?
Kristy Howard is a pastor’s wife, second-generation homeschooling mom of five, and a passionate believer in friendship, coffee, and quiet time! Kristy writes about motherhood, ministry and life at KristysCottage.com.