I don’t know why, but I always felt like I needed it-

needed permission to enjoy life.


consent; authorization.


Despite my trying too hard, life never seemed “enough.”

Never good enough.

Never perfect enough.

Never ideal enough.

Never clean enough.


Oh, on the occasional days I could sit back and think,

Yeah I arrived.  I finally arrived. 

This is IT. 

Life is better now, I’m better now, it’s all better now…

And then the bumps would hit again…

The bad hair days.

The hormonal days.

The failures and attitudes.

The stress.

The disagreements.

The financial strains.

The messes.

The dirty dishes.

The laundry.

The disorganized closets and cabinets.

The needs.

The sickness.


Something, always something, forbid me to enjoy my day.

And, my dear, if you fail to enjoy too many days

you will find yourself failing to enjoy life.

Because there’s never “enough” of YOU, or HIM, or THEM, or IT, to satisfy the insatiable demands of perfection.

I lived right there for a long time: not enjoying life.

I was waiting, always waiting, for some elusive moment or person to give me permission to think that life was finally “enough.”

But it never happened, and it never was.

Until I learned to give myself permission.

Permission to sleep in or catch a nap every once-in-a-while.

Permission to sit down and cuddle with a child even if the living room isn’t perfectly clean.

Permission to invite people into my less-than-perfect life.

Permission to appreciate what I have even when it doesn’t feel like much.

Permission to reach out when I’m not sure the gesture will be reciprocated.

Permission to share when I know my motives might be misunderstood.


Permission to respect my man even though he hasn’t “arrived” either.

Permission to praise my children even when they’re struggling with attitudes or habits.

Permission to smile even when I don’t feel beautiful, or happy, or appreciated.

Permission to wear perfume and lip gloss even if I’m not stepping out of the house all day.

Permission to drink a second (or third) cup of tea, just because I like it.

Permission to enjoy the  blazing, hot sunshine even though I’m sick of summer.

Permission to cozy up to a cold, rainy day even though I’m sick of winter.

Permission to give freely even though it might be forgotten.

Permission to step out in confidence despite the fact I might fail.

Permission to forgive.

Permission to fail.

Permission to try again.

Permission to laugh. Out loud. Just because!

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Permission to enjoy every single day just for what it is:






No comparing.

No complaining.


Just permission to embrace the broken as beautiful,

to see creativity in the chaos,

and to own the imperfect as if it were enough.



Because it is.

Today is enough, because

He is enough.

I am enough, you are enough, because

He is enough. 


  “Not that we are sufficient of ourselves to think of anything as being from ourselves,

but our sufficiency is from God,

who also made us sufficient as ministers of the new covenant,

not of the letter but of the Spirit;

for the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life.”

II Corinthians 3:5 & 6


Do you ever struggle to enjoy life?

Think about today.  How has it fallen short of your expectations?

Can you just let go and give yourself permission to embrace joy?

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16 thoughts on “Here’s Permission to Enjoy Your Imperfect Day

  1. So pretty, direct, yet gentle. I love this great reminder so much!
    @ inspirememama

    Posted on June 10, 2017 at 11:56 am
    1. Thank you for reading here, Cindy, and for the kind words!

      Posted on June 10, 2017 at 3:41 pm
  2. Thank you…. I don’t know how to express how this encouragement has truly blessed me,… I didn’t realize I wasn’t enjoying life, (my children, or my husband, or a homey, less then clean house) like should be,…. If I only had permission to enjoy anything and everything good even in chaos and imperfection. I always thought and I should be able to keep a perfect perfect house, like friends I have, even though they’re lives are so different. My husband is a high energy business owner/operater, I have 3 high energy boys, the oldest is 4, l milk half a dozen goats everyday, make a lot Greek yogurt and cheese, plus train horses in my “spare time”… but to me it’s never enough,…. And it’s not, ” I” and the things I do will never be enough without my Savior. But “He” is enough, and because He is in me, I am enough, if I choose to abide in Him!
    2 Corinthians 3:5-6 … wow, thank you I really needed it God bless!

    Posted on March 17, 2015 at 11:56 am
    1. Wow, you are a busy lady, Sarah! I definitely understand the feeling that what you do is never “enough”. I’m so happy you were encouraged and refreshed here, my friend!


      Posted on March 17, 2015 at 11:58 am
  3. A good reminder for this perfectionistic mom (who never quite achieves that just perfect day, in which the kids behaved, didn’t make any dreadful messes, schooling went wonderfully, fun even, with no fussing baby, the meals were on time and really healthy too, the house looks good, and the closets and cupboards look even better, an extra project got tackled, and I even had loads of energy to warmly welcome my dear husband home and got the well behaved children to bed early, easily, and had an uninterupted 2 hours with him, because supper and kitchen cleanup only took 5 minutes…) yeah… Thank you – and please enjoy your day too! 🙂

    Posted on March 7, 2015 at 2:19 pm
    1. Yes, Priscilla… those are the kinds of day I expect to live, as well. Unfortunately, they don’t happen very often! 🙂

      Posted on March 7, 2015 at 2:45 pm
  4. Great post, Kristy!
    I find myself pretending to be joyful day by day, pretending to be that great mom, worker, friend, Christian, housecleaner etc., when the whole time my heart is heavy with the weight of knowing it’s never enough. This really helped me today.

    Posted on March 6, 2015 at 2:27 pm
    1. Thank you, Ruth. Trying to be “enough” truly is a heavy weight, and one I’ve carried for years. It’s so freeing to let it go… but sometimes I find myself picking it up again. Grace is a daily, intentional walk…

      Posted on March 7, 2015 at 2:47 pm
  5. You are a voice for what so many of us moms feel. I struggle to find joy on these imperfect days where the kids whine and fight even after a lesson on how to walk in love with each other. Thank you-I needed this!!

    Posted on March 5, 2015 at 2:01 pm
    1. Heather, it’s funny that you mentioned that “the kids whine and fight even after a lesson on how to walk in love”. Just last week, I found myself getting so frustrated as I was trying to teach my kids a devotion with Sally Clarkson’s book, Our 24 Family Ways, because they had bad attitudes even while we were talking about how to have Christ-like character.

      Sometimes, it really feels like a waste of time! But it’s not… line upon line, precept upon precept, here a little, there a little… we plant, and God waters with His Holy Spirit to bring forth fruit in our children’s lives.

      But, yes, we certainly don’t see it on a day-to-day basis!! In so many ways, motherhood really is a walk of faith… and it’s very easy to lose sight of the bigger picture in the middle of the daily chaos. 🙂

      Posted on March 7, 2015 at 2:51 pm
  6. Great post. It’s amazing how something so simple as giving ourselves permission to not be perfect and to enjoy what we have been given is something we forget to do but can change so much. Thank you for sharing this.

    Posted on March 5, 2015 at 1:44 pm
    1. Lisa, letting go of perfection is so simple and basic… but it can be tough at the same time! For me, it’s very much a daily, intentional decision to choose right attitudes and an eternal perspective.

      Posted on March 7, 2015 at 2:53 pm
  7. Kristy, you have blessed me yet again with your honesty and grace! Keep writing these inspiring, encouraging posts because they touch more people out there than you will ever know! 🙂
    Your Sister in Christ,

    Posted on March 5, 2015 at 9:40 am
    1. Thank you, Kaitlin! Your encouraging words blessed me more than you may know! xoxoxoxo

      Posted on March 7, 2015 at 2:54 pm
  8. Thank you, Mitch! For reading, commenting, and sharing! xoxoxoxo

    Posted on March 4, 2015 at 11:14 pm
  9. Yey…just another inspiration to brighten up my day. 🙂 It’s always so nice to have a read here in your cottage Kristy! Love and thank you for being such a blessing to many.

    your always thankful friend,
    Mitch 🙂

    Posted on March 4, 2015 at 6:56 pm