Last year, I did something a bit out-of-character for a “natural homemaking” blogger:

I decided to write for an entire month to pastor’s wives.

Honestly, I didn’t expect much response.  I wasn’t sure if any pastor’s wives even read my blog!

The response to that little series blew me away.

10 Things Every Young Pastor's Wife Should Know

Very few weeks go by that I don’t receive some form of response to that series from pastor’s wives, either via blog comments, private messages on Facebook, or email.

The over riding message I’m hearing from you is that you need to connect with someone who understands.

We pastor’s wives can be lonely people.  We need community outside of the four walls of our churches.  We need understanding, encouragement, and support.

So here I go again…

If you’re a pastor’s wife, October is for you.

I’m nobody special, but I probably understand as least a little of what you’re feeling right now.

I’m not an expert, but I totally get the “why” behind many of your secret struggles.

I’m a far cry from perfect, but I do understand what it is like to be broken… and then find wholeness.

Right now, I’m sitting against the wall in my little boys’ bedroom, policing nap time while my thoughts and fingers fly during an all-too-short Tuesday afternoon. 

I don’t have great words of wisdom to give, but I am offering you friendship and grace.

In fact, 31 Days of Grace.

31 Days of Grace for the Pastors Wife

31 Days of Grace for the Pastor’s Wife is the title of this October’s series.

No, I won’t be blogging for thirty-one days straight, but I will be popping in every few days with a nugget to share, with your name on it.

If you’re on Pinterest, I created a brand new board, Just for Pastor’s Wives.  I’ll be adding lots of inspiring resources to this board during the month of October; you can follow it right here.

I am also considering creating a Facebook group just for pastor’s wives; a community where we can just connect, share, and support each other.

What do you think about that?

Let me know your thoughts, questions, and anything about yourself that you’d like to share right here.

I’m looking forward to sharing 31 Days of Grace with you!


P.S. If you’re not a pastor’s wife, I hope you’ll stick around during the month of October.  And maybe even forward this post on to your pastor’s wife!  Your friendship and support means a whole, whole lot.


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17 thoughts on “Pastor’s wife, October is for you…

  1. Thank u for writing…. I am married to Richard for 12, years out of which he is serving as a full time minister for last 10 years. I homeschool 2 of my kids….ur blog has helped me. Last 6 years we r serving in most unreached parts of North India
    It has been.hard for me in this.role. but ur blog has encouraged me.greatly

    Thank u. Luv u

    Posted on March 13, 2016 at 11:51 am
    1. Thank you so much for reading and commenting here, Priya. I have a soft spot in my heart for pastor’s families who serve in small or remote areas. I’m humbled that something I’ve shared here has encouraged and blessed you. Much love!

      Posted on March 17, 2016 at 9:51 pm
  2. Thanks for the place to connect! And I LOVE the idea of a Facebook group for Pastor’s wives!

    Posted on October 12, 2014 at 10:01 pm
  3. Thank you so much for writing this series. A “pastor’s wife” friend shared it on Facebook this morning and I saw it there. I love the idea of a group for pastor’s wives – what a great place that would be for encouragement!
    I grew up seeing the struggles in ministry families and not wanting to marry a pastor. Yet I am married to one and so thankful God is in control. We have 4 young children and are homeschooling our first year. Our church is very small, yet growing. My husband is also a professor at the local university and is very busy with that and pastoring. Also, I struggle with an autoimmune disease and resulting complications in my life so it’s quite a struggle from day to day to juggle all the balls. Yet God is faithful and gracious! I do get horribly lonely at times and wish for a friend to hang out with and for a mentor to encourage me and keep me accountable. Neither is available to me right now so I would really enjoy a group! Thank you again for your ministry to us!

    Posted on October 8, 2014 at 11:21 am
    1. Sarah, thank you so much for your feedback, especially regarding the Facebook group for pastor’s wives. I am seriously considering and praying about that… I see a great need.

      Love and friendship to you! ~Kristy

      Posted on October 8, 2014 at 7:04 pm
  4. Thank you for coming up with this. It’s very much needed and relief to know that we are not alone on this journey. God bless you

    Posted on October 8, 2014 at 3:10 am
    1. Mary… thank you so much for reading and commenting!

      Posted on October 8, 2014 at 7:05 pm
  5. I love that you are doing this! My husband was a children’s church pastor for 18 years; three years ago, he became a church planting pastor. I learned a lot of things as a children’s church pastor’s wife which prepared me for pioneering a church, but it has still been quite a transition. I look forward to all you will be sharing. I am also following your Pinterest board. Thank you!

    Posted on October 7, 2014 at 11:47 pm
    1. Thank you, Diane!

      Posted on October 8, 2014 at 7:06 pm
  6. Oh I’m excited to follow along on this series. Thank you.

    Posted on October 6, 2014 at 4:18 pm
  7. I am looking forward to this series and I love the idea of a Facebook group. I went looking for one a while back and couldn’t find one that seemed like a good fit.

    Posted on October 4, 2014 at 5:51 pm
  8. So excited for this series, Kristy! I’m thankful for your encouragement!

    Posted on October 2, 2014 at 10:30 pm
    1. Thank you, Kristen! We pastor’s wives have to stick together! 😉

      Posted on October 2, 2014 at 11:07 pm
  9. Hola from the @Little Pink Casa! What a great idea Kristy! I’m looking forward to this since I am a Pastor’s wife. It can get weary and a refreshing from God’s Word, prayer and worship help strengthen me. Also, following the pinterest board. Blessings and Shalom.

    Posted on October 1, 2014 at 4:48 pm
    1. So glad to connect with you, Rosenda! Looking forward to what the Lord has in store for us this month!

      Posted on October 2, 2014 at 6:20 am
  10. Love love love this idea!!!!

    Posted on October 1, 2014 at 10:55 am
    1. Thank you, April! So excited about sharing with my “sisters” this month! xoxoxoxo

      Posted on October 2, 2014 at 6:23 am