I want you to build your home.

I couldn’t have heard it any louder if God Himself had screamed it.

Instead He whispered the words into my heart-

I want you to build your home.

Mama, Can We Talk? {part two} Little Natural Cottage

When I look at my priorities as a mother, I realize that a lot of the stuff that makes my “to do” list is just that… it’s stuff.  

Projects, plans, ideas, expectations.

Good things, but still just stuff.

In “Mama, Can We Talk? {part one}, I shared that my daughter told me she was lonely.  That she needs more time to talk, “just you and me, Mama.”

My daughter is ten years old.  I’m not sure how many more years I’ll have with her before this season of young girlhood comes to an end.

I don’t want a door of opportunity to close with it, and that means I have to invest.  A lot.

A lot of time.  

A lot of emotional energy.  

A lot of me.

Mama, Can We Talk? {part two} Little Natural Cottage

I don’t have much extra of any of those things.  

In fact, most days it feels like there just isn’t enough to go around.

So I have to decide.  What is most important to me?  

I have to be honest with myself: 

My habits reveal my priorities.

And I remind myself that this is why I daily choose motherhood as my career.

Not because I don’t have skills or hobbies or even responsibilities outside of motherhood.

But because I know this season is fleeting, and the stakes for my children’s hearts and mind is high.

Mama, Can We Talk? {part two} Little Natural Cottage

For now, for this season, I have committed myself to loving, raising, and discipling my children at home.  

That is an all-consuming calling!

“And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart.

“You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.”

Deuteronomy 6:6 & 7 

This week, I read a statement in The Key to Your Child’s Heart, by Gary Smalley, that grabbed my attention:

“If our children see us neglect other things in order to spend time with them, they will realize how important they are to us.”

Hmmm, I always considered “neglect” a bad thing.  So I looked up the word “neglect” in the dictionary.


to fail to take care of or to give attention to (someone or something)

to fail to do (something).”

I don’t want to fail at anything I do.  

Not as a wife, woman, mother or friend.

I also know that I only have so much time, so much energy, so many areas in which I can truly succeed.

If I have to “neglect” something… if someone or something has to take the back seat and the back burner in my life… let it not be my family.

Many good things can wait.

Mama, Can We Talk? {part two} Little Natural Cottage

Children do not wait.

The time to build my home is today.

In this moment.

With these hands.

By God’s grace.


“As I look to the needs of the children of today, I am convinced they need the same things from their mothers that I needed– and received– from mine.  

“They need… the gentle touch of a mother’s hands, her focus and attention on a daily basis, a champion & a cheerleader, someone who has the time and energy to give encouragement along life’s way and comfort in dark times. 

“They need a directive voice to show them how to live.  …Meeting these needs is not an option or a sideline for mothers, but part of [God’s] design.”

– Sally Clarkson, The Mission of Motherhood


Monday, I’ll be sharing 10 Practical Ways to Spend More Quality Time With Your Kids.



originally written and shared March 2014. 

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