During the month of August, I’ll be featuring excerpts from my ebook, Homeschooling Day by Day, here at the blog on Wednesdays.
I’m not Super Mom, a perfect homeschooler, or a fancy writer with all the accolades and perfect words. I’m a real mom, just like you. I face challenges, deal with insecurities, and a lot of days feel pretty overwhelming as I try to honor Christ in the middle of the chaos!
I hope something I share over the next several weeks will bless and encourage you… and, most of all, help you realize that you’re not alone in the day by day messes of life.
“Debunking Super Mom”
chapter two, Homeschooling Day by Day
In the early years, I never really worried about homeschooling my kids.
I took pride in the fact that my preschooler and toddler were learning at home.
They were smart.
I was confident.
We were definitely on the right track.
I could handle this.
My, how life has a way of humbling us!
By the time babies number three and four arrived, I was feeling the stress of my Super Woman act.
No longer could I keep up with the house, the meals, the never-ending needs of my little ones, the ministry obligations I felt as a pastor’s wife, and the responsibility of homeschooling on top of everything else.
Somehow, we mothers adopt an image for ourselves that is beyond humanity.
Why did we invent the idea that homeschool moms are Super Women who know how to train perfect children,
maintain a well-ordered home,
sew their own clothing,
grow their own organic vegetables,
soak, sprout, and grind their own grains, bake their own bread,
all while managing a home business with a happy, breastfed baby on the hip?
Theoretically, I want to accomplish many (okay, almost all) of these goals. The honest reality?
I sometimes struggle to drag myself out of bed in the morning and boil a pot of oatmeal.
Being a perfectionist, I detest my shortcomings. In fact, I would rather try to pretend that they aren’t there.
Ironically, the Lord isn’t put off by my humanity.
In fact, He uses my inadequacies as a channel of His grace:
“… all of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble.”
I Peter 5:5
Despite my best intentions, I failed miserably at homeschooling when I thought I was “good enough” to handle it.
I’m a pretty capable mama, but pride is a lousy fuel for life and generally leads to burn out.
The truth is:
- I am nothing without the Lord. Apart from Him, it is impossible for me to be what I need to be for my husband and children.
- In His mercy, the Lord let me hit rock bottom, so I could let go of my pride long enough to grasp His grace.
- Grace gives us freedom and passion for life. Pride drives us to be and do more than God requires.
Are you struggling beneath the load of keeping up the Super Woman act?
Let it go, and choose to embrace grace!
GETTING TO THE HEART OF IT ALL
- Do you ever feel like you’re doing the Super Woman act?
- Whom do you feel pressured to impress: others, or yourself?
- How do you think your expectations of yourself line up with what the Lord requires of you as a mother?
- Scripture reading: II Corinthians 12:9-
And He said unto me, “My grace is sufficent for thee, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”
Most gladly therefore will I glory rather in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
If you’re in need of homeschooling encouragement and practical help, I hope you’ll take a peek at the ebook I wrote with ten other homeschooling moms!
You can read reviews of Homeschooling Day by Day, or buy the Kindle version, right here on Amazon.
Kristy Howard is a pastor’s wife, second-generation homeschooling mom of five, and a passionate believer in friendship, coffee, and quiet time! Kristy writes about motherhood, ministry and life at KristysCottage.com.