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I am a homemaker.  A stay-at-home-mom.  A homeschooling mother to boot.

That means I am really, really, really busy taking care of my husband, my home, and my kids.  Right?

 

Absolutely.  Homemaking, motherhood, and homeschooling are full time jobs, each in their own right.  Put them all in the same package and you’re looking at one full schedule!

 

As crazy as it seems, did you know that it’s quite possible for a full-time-staying-at-home-teaching-her-kids-woman to check out emotionally as a mom?  I know because I’ve been guilty.

 

Women in my generation have unprecedented opportunities.  And I’m not talking about the gals with doctorates and six digit incomes.

Mothers and homemakers have a world of opportunity at their fingertips via the internet.  Any “humble homemaker” with enough initiative and creativity can build a business (or a blog) that reaches hundreds of thousands, and never have to venture out the front door.

 

 

I love the entrepreneurial avenues that abound for women!  It is an exciting thing to be able to contribute, whether in a small or large way, to the family income.  I believe God is pleased when homemakers use their talents and time in creative ways to bless their families.  (See Proverbs chapter 31!)

 

However, any opportunity can be a blessing or a curse.  The “curse” is when mothers become so focused on the good things in which they are involved (blogging, ministry, home businesses, etc) that they cease to stay truly engaged with their children.

 

“To love our children is to devote ourselves fully to their training.”

 

Debi Pearl

 

 

 Even as I write this, I am aware of areas in my “job” as a mother that need attention.  Everything from attitude training to potty training calls my name!   

 

I’ll be the first to confess, it’s all too easy to practice “get by” mothering.  There are so many other things that consume my emotional energy.  Something has to give, and mothering gets done one way or another whether I’m really purposeful about it or not.

 

 

One year old baby girl playing with red pumps, isolated on white.

 

  

 

The question isn’t will my daughter eventually learn to read, or will my son really graduate from high school still in diapers?  

 

 

Children are smart and they eventually learn life skills, simply by living.

 

 

The question is, Where is my focus?  Is raising my children just another part of my “to do” list, or is it my “career”?

 

You see, I believe all women have a career.

 

career =  a profession for which one trains and which is undertaken as a permanent calling

 

-Merriam-Webster dictionary

 

 

 

Have you ever viewed homemaking or motherhood as a “career”?  As something you have “undertaken as a permanent calling”?

 

If being a mother doesn’t seem “career worthy”, ask the Lord to change your heart until you are as passionate about motherhood as you are about your hobbies and pursuits...

 

 

Until it seems a small sacrifice to let the emails go unanswered while you invest your time in building a relationship with a child whose heart is drifting…  

 

 

Until how you speak and act at home seems more important than how eloquent you write online or teach at church.

 

 

 

I’m talking about real life, ladies.  This is where we live.

 

I will not always have a newborn who doesn’t sleep at night, preschoolers to teach, growing children to feed, and little souls to shape.  One of these days, the crucible years of parenting will come to an end and I will look my children in the eye as peers.

 

When that time comes, I pray I can lift my heart in thankfulness for how I spent these years, these days I’m living right now.  Not as a perfect mother who never made mistakes, but as a purposeful mother who saw raising kids as a job worth doing well.

 

So today, motherhood is my career.

 

 

 

the Natural Cottage Mama

 

 

This post is linked at Deep Roots at Home, Raising Homemakers, Raising Mighty Arrows

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15 thoughts on “Confessions of a Career Mother

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    Posted on February 17, 2014 at 10:37 pm
  2. Hi Mrs Howard
    What a wonderful inspiring post. Just what I needed to hear today. Thank you.
    I had a question/ issue I wanted to ask your advice on. I have a seven week old son and I am truly struggling with lack of sleep. I do all the caring for our son and he sleeps maybe two and a half hours at a time. Whilst I adore my son and wouldn’t change a second of being his mama, I am getting so run down and exhausted and its impacting on my ability to mother him patiently and my enjoyment of the experience. How do you cope with this? Any advice you have would be so appreciated.

    Posted on May 16, 2013 at 11:39 pm
    1. Mrs M,

      First of all, let me say “I understand!”. I have a nearly 6-week old son who isn’t sleeping too well at night and, quite honestly, I’m exhausted right now.

      Since this little man is my 5th child, I have the perspective of a somewhat experienced mother-of-a-newborn; I know that this too shall pass. However, mama needs to be able to function in the mean time!

      I encourage you, Mrs M, to nap sometime during the day while your baby sleeps. Perhaps an hour in the morning, or maybe during the afternoon. But DO nap!

      Also, don’t feel guilty about sleeping in a little, if at all possible. With my first few babies, I tried keeping up with my normal schedule and daily routine in the early weeks after their births, and ended up very worn out and burned out. Don’t be afraid to rest a little more than usual during the day, if you’re able.

      Lastly, you will probably have to cut back on some activities right now, just until your baby is sleeping better. Don’t tackle any extra projects! Sometimes that includes letting someone else (your husband? a nearby family member?) buy groceries for you, run errands, etc. Honestly, I stay home a lot when I have a newborn!

      Something to consider: Is there a sleeping arrangement that would work better for your baby? With you, instead of in a crib, or vice versa? One of our babies slept terribly in a crib or bassinet, but loved sleeping in her swing next to our bed. Two of our babies started sleeping better when I moved them out of our bed and into a bassinet nearby. I’m sure you’ve already tried everything, but these are just a few suggestions! 🙂

      While you’re nurturing your baby, be sure to keep taking care of yourself, as well: take a good multivitamin, drink plenty of water, eat well, rest often, and try some relaxing herbal teas throughout the day to support your immune and nervous systems.

      Caring for a newborn is a rewarding but taxing job, and I certainly understand your struggle! Sometimes babies simply don’t sleep well, despite our best efforts. Keep up the good work and realize that this is a season… it will pass.

      Posted on May 17, 2013 at 7:47 am
  3. Wow, I love this! Thank you! Just what the Lord has been pressing to my heart for a year now! Just having the hardest time saying it to my clients! LOVE LOVE LOVE this message. Thank you!

    Posted on May 11, 2013 at 10:32 pm
  4. Great post! When I was raising my child, I often wondered if I was doing it right. I know I made mistakes. But to err is human. I regret some mistakes and voice them to my daughter and she says, “Mom, you did the best you could with what you had, I came out okay and you are my sunshine” How rewarding is that? I know when your kids are grown they will come to you and say you did a great job as well!

    Posted on May 10, 2013 at 3:53 pm
    1. Beautiful, thanks for sharing!

      Posted on May 10, 2013 at 10:32 pm
  5. Such a sweet and beautiful reminder of the importance of mothers, thanks

    Posted on May 10, 2013 at 8:54 am
  6. Amen! Sharing this, Kristy…with all three of my Facebook fans 😉

    Posted on May 10, 2013 at 7:28 am
    1. Thank you, Bambi… you are a sweet heart! 🙂

      Posted on May 10, 2013 at 8:48 am
  7. This is excellent, Kristy! It is an easy trap to fall into. We must be vigilant that we don’t fall into complacency in our most important position. Thank you for the gentle reminder!

    Posted on May 10, 2013 at 7:21 am
    1. So true, Kasey.! Thank you for the feedback!

      Posted on May 10, 2013 at 7:59 am
  8. Very convicting and challenging post! Thank you for this! I needed it.

    Posted on May 10, 2013 at 7:02 am
    1. Thanks, Lindsey!

      Posted on May 10, 2013 at 7:59 am
  9. Great post – and very convicting! 🙂 Thanks Kristy!

    Posted on May 10, 2013 at 6:03 am
    1. Thank you, Stephanie!

      Posted on May 10, 2013 at 8:00 am