I am a homemaker. A stay-at-home-mom. A homeschooling mother to boot.
That means I am really, really, really busy taking care of my husband, my home, and my kids. Right?
Absolutely. Homemaking, motherhood, and homeschooling are full time jobs, each in their own right. Put them all in the same package and you’re looking at one full schedule!
As crazy as it seems, did you know that it’s quite possible for a full-time-staying-at-home-teaching-her-kids-woman to check out emotionally as a mom? I know because I’ve been guilty.
Women in my generation have unprecedented opportunities. And I’m not talking about the gals with doctorates and six digit incomes.
Mothers and homemakers have a world of opportunity at their fingertips via the internet. Any “humble homemaker” with enough initiative and creativity can build a business (or a blog) that reaches hundreds of thousands, and never have to venture out the front door.
I love the entrepreneurial avenues that abound for women! It is an exciting thing to be able to contribute, whether in a small or large way, to the family income. I believe God is pleased when homemakers use their talents and time in creative ways to bless their families. (See Proverbs chapter 31!)
However, any opportunity can be a blessing or a curse. The “curse” is when mothers become so focused on the good things in which they are involved (blogging, ministry, home businesses, etc) that they cease to stay truly engaged with their children.
“To love our children is to devote ourselves fully to their training.”
Even as I write this, I am aware of areas in my “job” as a mother that need attention. Everything from attitude training to potty training calls my name!
I’ll be the first to confess, it’s all too easy to practice “get by” mothering. There are so many other things that consume my emotional energy. Something has to give, and mothering gets done one way or another whether I’m really purposeful about it or not.
The question isn’t will my daughter eventually learn to read, or will my son really graduate from high school still in diapers?
Children are smart and they eventually learn life skills, simply by living.
The question is, Where is my focus? Is raising my children just another part of my “to do” list, or is it my “career”?
You see, I believe all women have a career.
career = a profession for which one trains and which is undertaken as a permanent calling
Have you ever viewed homemaking or motherhood as a “career”? As something you have “undertaken as a permanent calling”?
If being a mother doesn’t seem “career worthy”, ask the Lord to change your heart until you are as passionate about motherhood as you are about your hobbies and pursuits...
Until it seems a small sacrifice to let the emails go unanswered while you invest your time in building a relationship with a child whose heart is drifting…
Until how you speak and act at home seems more important than how eloquent you write online or teach at church.
I’m talking about real life, ladies. This is where we live.
I will not always have a newborn who doesn’t sleep at night, preschoolers to teach, growing children to feed, and little souls to shape. One of these days, the crucible years of parenting will come to an end and I will look my children in the eye as peers.
When that time comes, I pray I can lift my heart in thankfulness for how I spent these years, these days I’m living right now. Not as a perfect mother who never made mistakes, but as a purposeful mother who saw raising kids as a job worth doing well.
So today, motherhood is my career.
Kristy Howard is a pastor’s wife, second-generation homeschooling mom of five, and a passionate believer in friendship, coffee, and quiet time! Kristy writes about motherhood, ministry and life at KristysCottage.com.