Hospitality doesn’t come easily for me.
I’m prideful, that’s why.
You were expecting an honest answer, right?
I don’t like people to see my house less-than-perfect.
I don’t like my friends to know I sort of stink at preparing fancy food.
It’s painful to realize how really pitiful I am with details.
It’s a bit humbling to live in an old house with a lot of “fixer upper” projects.
Yeah, I have pride issues.
Somehow, I’ve always tried to wiggle out of the command, Be hospitable to one another without grumbling. (I Peter 4:9)
Maybe the Lord was talking to everyone except me… you know, the already-too-busy-homeschooling-mom-with-five-kids?
I really doubt He meant *I* have to be hospitable… in this season of life…
Why did You have to add that part, Lord?
As a pastor’s wife, I’ve been hospitable a lot (although not nearly enough).
And I’ve complained about it a lot.
The Lord has been moving me past my stubborn perfectionism, and it hurts.
As a young wife and mom, I’ve struggled with being hospitable for a number of reasons. Here are a few:
I don’t have time to cook complicated meals for guests.
I can never keep my house “clean enough” for company.
It’s expensive to provide food for extra people.
It’s time consuming to host guests, and I already don’t have enough time for myself.
Do any of these sound familiar?
Last night, my husband and I hosted a few families in our home for a really simple get autumn together.
Mostly, we sat around a fire in the back yard and talked while our kids played or roasted s’mores. (Yes, it was messy!).
Honestly, Jeremy and I have had a crazy busy week. No, make that a crazy busy month.
We didn’t really “have time” to have anyone over… but then who does? (I imagine our friends didn’t really “have time” to come over either, but they value friendship enough that they made the effort. I appreciate that!)
Normally, I would have stressed out over “having company”, but this was a pleasantly simple get together to plan and prepare.
I’m not sharing this to brag or pat myself on the back in any way. I’m just being honest about a very real struggle for me, and how the Lord is helping me get over it.
I shared a few pics from our evening in this post, along with some really easy tips for making hospitality practical, fun, and festive. I hope something you read or see here will encourage and inspire you.
If you’re like me and find yourself balking over “showing hospitality without grumbling”, ask the Lord to give you a fresh start and a new heart.
Ask Him today!
Then invite a few friends over and just focus on making them feel so very loved and welcomed into your life. Not just your home, but your life.