Earlier this week we looked at ways a foolish woman tears down her home.

Here are five wise habits that will build our homes and marriages.

Cultivate a Peaceful Spirit

Nothing undermines the atmosphere of a home like a contentious and negative attitude.  

Unfortunately, (speaking for myself) a peaceful spirit does not come naturally! It is something we must cultivate, work towards, retrain our thinking and habits in order to maintain.

Have you ever noticed that your children usually pick up a bad attitude if you have one?  

As women, we set the atmosphere for our homes by our attitudes.  That’s a sobering thought! 

Mama, your role in a peaceful home is an important one!

“It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman.”  Proverbs 21:19

Practice Contentment

If you and I are not inwardly “satisfied” as individuals, it’s difficult to thrive as a women, wives, mothers.

The key to cultivating this “satisfaction” is not to pursue our desires, but to rest completely in Christ.  Release your expectations to God and trust Him to give you what you need.  As we learn to depend on God to meet our needs, and to appreciate every little joy in our lives, life truly becomes sweet.

One of the biggest realizations I have ever come to is that life does not have to be perfect for me to enjoy it. A joyful, contented spirit does much to create a beautiful atmosphere in the home.

“I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.”  Philippians 4:11

Affirm your husband and children

People flourish with praise, and that includes your husband and children!

It’s easy to take our family for granted and focus on the negative aspects of their personalities.  Make it a habit to verbally affirm your husband.  Refuse to criticize him in public, and with great caution at home.

Encourage and compliment your children; praise more often than you correct.

If your husband or children’s love language is words of affirmation, it is especially important that you learn to develop a habit of verbal affirmation.

“Heaviness in the heart of a man maketh is stoop: but a good word maketh it glad.”  Proverbs 12:11

Seek to please your man

I’m afraid this is sometimes a lost art in our modern world today. 

When is the last time you or I did something just because we knew our husbands would like it? I’m talking about everything from making the bed, cooking a certain meal, having dinner at a particular time, wearing his favorite perfume or outfit, having the living room clean when he comes in from work… just because we know it’s his preference.

If your husband is hard to please, search your heart and honestly ask yourself if you might have broken his spirit by your attitudes or actions.  Most men will respond lovingly to a woman whose heart is seeking to please him.  Just make sure you’re that woman!

“The heart of her husband doth safely trust her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.  She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.”  Proverbs 31:11 & 12

Choose to respect your man- every day- no matter what

Contrary to what I used to believe, respect is not a “feeling”; it is a choice.  Some days, I “feel” respect for my husband; other days, I choose to respect him because I am instructed to do so in Scripture, and because he is the head of our home.

Some men do not deserve respect, and I’m not talking about the exceptions in this post.   

I would venture to say that no man “deserves” respect all of the time.  Men are fallen creatures; they make mistakes.  Yet we are asked by God to “respect” and “reverence” these imperfect men!

As a young wife, I read Love and Respect and For Women Only.  I highly recommend these books to other wives. 

Let… the wife see that she reverence her husband.”  Ephesians 5:33


How is your home life today?  What could you do to make it better?



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2 thoughts on “5 Ways to Build Your Home

  1. Am I the first to comment?! I love your blog, Kristy! Can’t wait to follow it as it grows to a wonderful big resource on the internet! 😀

    Posted on April 9, 2011 at 2:10 am
    1. Thank you, Sharon! 🙂

      Posted on April 9, 2011 at 4:57 am